You can’t go through life feeling sorry for yourself, then expecting things to turn out well. You can’t feel sorry for yourself and expect that you won’t get sick or that you won’t somehow manage to create your own bad luck.
Self pity is an emotional storm cloud. It brings you down, maybe your immune system with it.
It can be hard—not nursing your wounds because others with greater wounds need greater attention, maybe even your attention. But, when you’ve put others’ needs and troubles before your own, something rises up in you from the inside making you stronger.