Celebrate the Things We Cannot Change

Celebrate the Things We Cannot Change

The serenity prayer seeks to accept things we cannot change. But, a more powerful approach would be to be grateful for them. We can never know what will surely happen. Life always interrupts our plans and our work, smashing and rearranging what is in front of us. One way or another, life is pointing us to the next, better thing. Of course, every time life rearranges something, we feel violated and indignant.

That’s the thing about feeling violated and indignant—they are forms of ingratitude. When we get something better, we should be grateful that we did, not merely accepting.  · · · →

The Smokescreen of Anger

The Smokescreen of Anger

Frustration peaks when nerves are high. Freaking out won’t do any good. In a crisis, instincts search for a cause—something or someone to blame. But, even finding blame won’t find a way out of a crisis. Keep your head. Resist the urge to thirst for blood.

The real enemy doesn’t rear its ugly head until long after it matters, if ever. Whomever you think to blame, you probably don’t have the full story and would likely blame your allies anyway. No matter the folly, hate hinders. Take action. Be smart. And, never squander emotion and effort as you do.  · · · →

Real Friends

Real Friends

Real friends are hard to make. That’s different from a friend being hard to find. It’s one thing to actually find a friend, but making a friend is the hard part. Real friendship must be forged through fire and ice.

No one can shape a friendship on purpose. Life, circumstance, and the Divine Hand pour, mold, and pound every good friendship into whatever it becomes. It’s the friends who must endure the pounding, the heat, and the freezing brisk that harden our bonds into something that can never break. Friends are easily found; their making takes rewarding pain and dedication.  · · · →

Years We Learn

Years We Learn

Some years, we mainly learn. Other years, we work. When times support our work, we work. When times direct our learning, we learn.

As troubled and hard as the learning years can be, the working years wouldn’t be a tenth as productive without them. The reason winter makes trees grow deep roots is the need to find water. Freeze all the water and trees grow deep. Then, they can grow taller and faster in the easy months. Just imagine all the new ways to live and love and thrive we find, all because of a few long months of hardship.  · · · →