Most disastrous choices start with fear of something, and it’s almost always subtle. When fear drives us, we think we are being cautious, responsible, lining up our ducks, preparing for the worst, and playing it safe. But, if our purported precautions are based on a danger that doesn’t actually exist, then we have made small steps based on an imaginary fear.
Even one, single step taken out of fear is a step in the wrong direction. That could be a step off a cliff or send us two degrees off course. It’s better to be directed by goals, not fears. · · · →
Keep your thoughts targeted on the task at hand. If your task is planning, then plan. If your task is building, then build. Don’t argue with people not in the room. And, don’t solve problems that don’t exist anywhere but in your mind. By solving problems in your mind, you must first create them in your mind, then your mind might really create them. It’s better to just focus on real work in the here and now.
Judges aren’t allowed to speculate how they might rule on cases not yet before the court. Follow the same rule: Judge the present. · · · →
Don’t let setbacks make you quit, not even your own. When you trip yourself up, accept the consequences, settle your heart to limit your losses, then get back up and keep going. The consequences of failure are never that you should quit—don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
That’s a well-kept secret of the world’s greatest victors. Most of their troubles are self-made. But, they don’t give in and throw their hands up, not even from their own problems. If you can dust yourself off and get back in the game after your own trouble, trouble from others is no problem. · · · →
Anyone can observe that anyone has problems. Complaining and criticizing neither take insight nor experience. Do you want to be skilled at telling people why they must continue to fail, or do you want to be skilled at telling people why and how they can and must succeed?
Cheerleaders are in greater demand than ‘jeerleaders’. In truth, no one’s heard of a ‘jeerleader’ because jeering doesn’t help a team win. Coaches and athletes in the game know this. Do their fans know? Do you know?
People in your life have a huge fan: you. When they stumble, teach their solution. · · · →