Critique Construct

Critique Construct

By definition, criticism cannot be constructive when its motivated by disappointment. Three “nevers” can guide you: Never object to mistakes you knew about before hand, but waited until after failure to care about. Never offer a critique without focusing on a clear and helpful path forward. Never used the phrase “that’s on you”.

If you can’t say anything good, don’t say anything at all. When you point the finger, at least three of your own point straight back at you. We all have plenty of blame to go around. That’s why leaders with winning teams find only solutions, never blame.  · · · →

Follow Permanent Paths

Follow Permanent Paths

One, single choice may put you on a path you can never escape. You may have made a mistake. Then you find out the consequences. They may be ugly. But, that doesn’t mean it’s “game over”. You have people who will go with you all the way.

When you make a choice, you put your friends and family on a permanent path they must travel with you. If you’re unhappy, next time discuss first, not after. You can win. You can thrive. But, there are new rules of every road you chose. Only winners accept those rules and press on.  · · · →

Commendable and Forgivable

Commendable and Forgivable

Much rhetoric on morals viewed so-called “sin” as something God condemns. Sure, as Judge over the living and the dead, God will need to condemn certain souls, but that’s where we think our own opinions are the same as an opinion of the Court. They’re not.

When Jesus stood before the Sanhedrin, Jesus was not on trial; humanity was. Jesus had already decided that our so-called “sins” needed to be forgiven, and his death was the only verdict he could pass. Jesus doesn’t see our actions as commendable or condemnable. His worldview asks whether a thing is commendable or forgivable.  · · · →

Fighting and Growth

Fighting and Growth

Trouble with the locals is always an opportunity. You may have a parking squabble in your new neighborhood. But once it’s resolved, everyone got to know you quite quickly. And, you discovered that neither you nor the neighbors were anyone’s enemy, but the enemy is the parking problem across your city. Identifying the community nuisance can bring even the fiercest enemies together.

You may drop a flower pot in your neighbor’s yard, just to have the neighbor bring you another missing plant. You see it’s time for bigger pots that won’t fall over and your garden grows all at once.  · · · →