Calm Respect

Calm Respect

Stay respectful and stay calm—always!

When people are wrong, help them see the most helpful things to help them on their way. Stick to what’s useful. When someone says something that isn’t useful, saying so isn’t useful. Don’t fully change the topic, just shift it over a little to some useful idea. Focus on whatever goodness you want more of, not the bad you want to eradicate.

Conflict and disagreement make fragile circumstances. Handle with care. Don’t toss eggs on the table. Don’t gently roll them away either. Where an egg rolls to it can roll from, then smash.  · · · →

Tap Your Energy

Tap Your Energy

It’s one’s energy source itself that makes the difference in the end. From the environment to relationships, we rely on some form or energy—and all energy needs a source. It could be petroleum to drive an automobile. It could be a battery to drive something faster and simpler, but whether a battery is cleaner than gasoline depends on where the battery gets its energy.

Or, your energy could be your own source of personal power. Do you pollute those around you on account of your social energy? At the end of the day, it goes back to the source.  · · · →

Hate an Answer?

Hate an Answer?

Everyone, sooner or later, tries to solve problems with hatred—everyone.

We usually don’t think about it when we do. Hatred is a kind of auto-pilot, a pattern we default to when it’s too hard to change, like a bad habit we explain away as not being a bad habit. Once we know we are in the act of acting in hatred, it’s not hatred anymore. Funny thing, hatred only operates when we don’t know it or refuse to admit it.

Hate is no answer though, as much as our habits would have us think. Be rational and don’t hate.  · · · →

Drop Petty Controls

Drop Petty Controls

Don’t fall for it! Everyone has moments when we find dirt on someone or we catch an enemy at a weak moment. David could have killed Saul twice, which would have saved the kingdom from a megalomaniac who wanted to kill David. Then again, what then?

If David had killed Saul when chances came, many respected voices in the kingdom would have called it an “assassination”, possibly spiraling into civil war.

These small control chances we stumble across are opportunities to demonstrate our maturity; using them to dominate is just weak and petty. Don’t, and don’t fear those who try.  · · · →