Redeemability

Redeemability

Anyone can observe that anyone has problems. Complaining and criticizing neither take insight nor experience. Do you want to be skilled at telling people why they must continue to fail, or do you want to be skilled at telling people why and how they can and must succeed?

Cheerleaders are in greater demand than ‘jeerleaders’. In truth, no one’s heard of a ‘jeerleader’ because jeering doesn’t help a team win. Coaches and athletes in the game know this. Do their fans know? Do you know?

People in your life have a huge fan: you. When they stumble, teach their solution.  · · · →

Forced Gifts

Forced Gifts

Sometimes you can’t ask before you give. People might not like what you give at first. They might think it’s too much and refuse your gift because they feel unworthy or don’t want to be in your debt. But, that’s the thing about gifts: No one asks for them.

Asking for a gift makes the gift no longer a gift. You can ask for favors or donations. But, “gifts” in their truest sense are given at the initiative of the giver, not the receiver. So arguably, some of the best gifts are the ones we know need a little force.  · · · →

Approachability

Approachability

What draws us to certain people? Is it their good looks? Kindness? Accomplishment? Or, the mere fact that we are drawn to people other people are drawn to even though we don’t know why? Ask yourself these questions long enough, and you will find a character cocktail of diligence mixed with respect.

We love people who do whatever they do well. It’s ontological. It’s nature. We all do things, and we all want to do our things well. We also want respect, and we are even happier when we respect others. Anyone good at whatever, including respect, draws us in.  · · · →

What It Means to not Whine

What It Means to not Whine

One of the most impossible lessons of personal growth is about not fixing blame. The specific person and specific circumstance that knocked you down were almost surely wrong, somehow. It might have even been on purpose. But, you must ignore all of that and do nothing but take the next step.

You demonstrate how grown up you are by the size of problems you shrug off. Everything should be no big deal. Don’t ball up into your emotional hideaway and crawl into a bed of blame and shame. Take the next step toward your own progress, not justice for yourself.  · · · →