Strength is never bestowed, it must be attained by ourselves. You will never get yourself to anyplace you want by blaming or excusing. Your results belong only to you and they can be earned only by you.
Moving along isn’t easy. When we get stronger and better, we enter a new territory. If we’re always improving, we’re always in new territory. Comfort doesn’t find a place there. A life of ongoing growth means a life lived outside the comfort zone—always.
So, don’t just stand there when you see something you want. Gauge your opportunity, then move in full tilt. · · · →
Decisions are simple if we bear in mind two things: Be direct, be real.
It’s no good taking detours without need when you’re in a hurry. The problem is that we like to justify detours, without considering their costs. If we don’t arrive on time, whatever we’re doing won’t get done. Equally, it’s no good going somewhere you don’t want to go. Taking the direct rout over a cliff won’t take you to anyplace other than regret. The problem is that we like to justify being in a hurry, without considering the risk of failure.
If life kicks hard, it seems unfair. But, no one grows without pain of some sort, sooner or later. It’s never fair, then again it’s always fair. The way pain happens is never right, but the fact that it happens gives us the blessing of growth. So, the unfairness of hardship is the only way life can treat us fairly.
Are you ungrateful for the blessings in your life? People who can’t thank helpful pain can’t be thankful for anything. They will find a way to complain even about the nicest and best benevolences life has to offer. Be thankful. · · · →
It gets under our skin, insanity. When the attacks come, they start manipulative, shaming, pushing guilt, placing blame, and making you think you’re the crazy one who needs help. It only grow bigger and bigger, especially when you go along with it. Insanity, after all, is a distorted perspective of the world. If you let your crazy abusers think they are stronger than they are, their craziness will grow, along with their unfettered willingness to throw a dangerous fit when finally confronted.
The best way out is to call it out, the sooner the better. Call crazy what it is. · · · →