Surprise Friendship

Friendships show up by surprise. Usually, the surprise is slow and long-term, but not always. Someone arrives at a new spot, and the people in that spot are to be that person’s friends. Whether they are good friends, mild acquaintances, or sometimes enemies is a choice left up to everyone there. But, it’s not planned. It’s something that just happens.

Don’t resist and don’t distance. We don’t have forever and we never know what may come. Wherever you show up, the people around you are your friends for that moment. And, no one knows how long that moment will last.  · · · →

Walk Upward

It’s a tactic, used for both good and bad. When a problem arises, ignore the problem and focus like a laser on improving your own skill. If you are a mechanic, ignore the riots and read a shop manual. If you’re a manager, ignore reports of election fraud and re-read “Who Moved My Cheese?”. If you work in food service or a factory, focus on your hobby. Focus on your own attitude.

Some people do this to a fault. They improve themselves so much that they ignore the problems of the world. Good or bad, self-growth makes people that strong.  · · · →

Don’t Mind

The ability to just not care is almost like a superpower. It sends a message of immovability and confidence, probably in self, but the confidence could be placed in something else—like God. Not caring sends this message for good reason.

Most of us walk around with an inner turmoil—a storm rages within each of us, full of fear, worry, and doubt of someone or something or self. That storm makes us hypersensitive to the normal world around us. So, it is not really life or circumstance we don’t need to mind. The thing we needn’t mind is within.  · · · →