Sometimes you can’t ask before you give. People might not like what you give at first. They might think it’s too much and refuse your gift because they feel unworthy or don’t want to be in your debt. But, that’s the thing about gifts: No one asks for them.
Asking for a gift makes the gift no longer a gift. You can ask for favors or donations. But, “gifts” in their truest sense are given at the initiative of the giver, not the receiver. So arguably, some of the best gifts are the ones we know need a little force.