Nothing lasting comes from borrowed steam. Just how no one should steal someone’s thunder, no one should loan steam. It’s a hard pill to swallow, even harder to prescribe.
You need problems. You need to be abandoned to fend for yourself. You need to grow stronger from the struggle. You need the credit, kudos, and valor that come with winning your own victory. You need to owe nothing to anyone after your own hard-fought revolution. You know how hard that is to hear.
You need to tell that hard message to others. Anything else cripples people into dependence on you.