Conflict demands a choice. The incredibly boring, typical, anything-but-special choice is to fight for domination—to prove others wrong, then make them remember by rubbing their faces in it. It’s all about the principle, after all. The other choice is to help, lift, educate, inform, explain, and even do the heavy lifting yourself—a choice which isn’t so popular.
The difference can be found in results. Societies don’t improve where people only win fights. Sometimes we need to ruffle feathers, but what about after that? Once you’ve stirred the pot, will you dump on your dinner guests or serve them?