Expanding your borders won’t solve your problems; expanding your borders while you have problems only expands your problems; solving your problems will effortlessly expand your borders.
Where do you put your effort?
If you focus on how other people are to blame for your problems, you will find the excuse you need. Then, you can have problems and someone to blame for them. But, your own problems will never go away until you can focus on how you yourself are to blame.
So, put all your effort on your own blame, no matter how small your blame borders on being.