Succeed Together

Succeed Together

We go forward together. That’s part of the concept of “we”—it’s a “together” sort of thing. We fail when we’re not together. We are defeated by untalented, useless, even evil people because they work together when we don’t.

No one is an island. Many twist this wisdom to mean we should let others boss us around or we should share what shouldn’t be shared. But, the insight that humans aren’t islands has a deeper undertone that victors can’t ignore: cooperation. Synergy, teamwork, strengths covering weaknesses—call it what you like. You’ll only succeed if you’re not the only one.  · · · →

Surprise Friendship

Friendships show up by surprise. Usually, the surprise is slow and long-term, but not always. Someone arrives at a new spot, and the people in that spot are to be that person’s friends. Whether they are good friends, mild acquaintances, or sometimes enemies is a choice left up to everyone there. But, it’s not planned. It’s something that just happens.

Don’t resist and don’t distance. We don’t have forever and we never know what may come. Wherever you show up, the people around you are your friends for that moment. And, no one knows how long that moment will last.  · · · →

Focus Forgives

Focus Forgives

The line between forgiving and spoiling is rarely clear. It’s not a boundary that lies on the ground. But, the line is there. And, it’s easier to walk by keeping focused on the bigger goal, whatever that may be.

If you’re trying to win a sports game, stay focused on the game, not who fouled who. If its about business, just make money honestly, use that as your distraction from petty, personal squabbles over who snubbed who. When the task gets completed, all the bumps on the road behind seem so much smaller. And, whatever spilled feels easier to clean.  · · · →

Own Your Stone

Own Your Stone

Sad fact of life number 271: other people can hurt you. Sometimes we are over-powered. Other times we are fooled. Sometimes we are fooled by people who mean well. Sometimes we are fooled by people who mean ill. More often than not, we are fooled by people who fool themselves more than they fool others. So, that makes the victim the bigger fool. That’s sad fact of life number 272: you were the bigger fool.

The arch of destruction in your life has a thousand stones; one of them is yours. Yank it and the whole arch collapses. Focus on your stone.  · · · →