There rests a line to walk between the extremes of standing in defiance and kowtowing to demands. That line is best called “nature”.
As you stand your ground for something—so you don’t fall for just anything—there’s no need to assert yourself on the ground of others. Do what you reasonably can to accommodate for other’s brokenness and folly—it’s called forbearance. But, don’t overdue “help” to the point of enabling.
Patiently study your direction, your purpose, your methods. By knowing who you are and where you are going and not going, gentle help and refusal thereof wisely follows.