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If life kicks hard, it seems unfair. But, no one grows without pain of some sort, sooner or later. It’s never fair, then again it’s always fair. The way pain happens is never right, but the fact that it happens gives us the blessing of growth. So, the unfairness of hardship is the only way life can treat us fairly.

Are you ungrateful for the blessings in your life? People who can’t thank helpful pain can’t be thankful for anything. They will find a way to complain even about the nicest and best benevolences life has to offer. Be thankful.  · · · →

It gets under our skin, insanity. When the attacks come, they start manipulative, shaming, pushing guilt, placing blame, and making you think you’re the crazy one who needs help. It only grow bigger and bigger, especially when you go along with it. Insanity, after all, is a distorted perspective of the world. If you let your crazy abusers think they are stronger than they are, their craziness will grow, along with their unfettered willingness to throw a dangerous fit when finally confronted.

The best way out is to call it out, the sooner the better. Call crazy what it is.  · · · →

Crazy is a monster of the mind that drives us to harm. It usually drives someone to harm others, but on occasion it has been known to only harm oneself. Still, crazy drives us to harm.

As it harms, it zooms in on one victim—obsessing over only one person or group, usually under the self-delusion that it can somehow help. And, to everyone else, the victim is a liar.

When crazy comes after you, everyone will tell you you’re wrong, you need counseling, or you see ghosts. Take heed; it’s only a matter of time before crazy moves on.  · · · →

Patience requires that we don’t do injury beyond the villain’s. So, someone did it to you. It was wrong. You’re right. They deserve something. You deserve something else to have happened. But, if you respond at a higher level of cruelty, you become the new villain.

This is a constraint that both requires and cultivates patience. Consider the kung fu master who doesn’t need to land a single strike in order to win a fight. He’s so good that he dodges every attack, wears out his assailant to a point of error, then declares victory with a single, gentle hold.  · · · →