On Point

On Point

When you face trouble, share your plans. Often times, we’d think to hide our plans from the opposition. But, if you’re trained and awesome enough, your plans don’t need to be kept secret.  For this reason, evidence must be shared with the opposing legal team before being presented in court. If you have a strong case, you might win before the trial, merely by presenting the evidence you intend to share if so forced.

So, by all means, share your plans. When you have trouble, tell the responsible party exactly what you intend to do. Then, just stay on point.  · · · →

Celebrate the Things We Cannot Change

Celebrate the Things We Cannot Change

The serenity prayer seeks to accept things we cannot change. But, a more powerful approach would be to be grateful for them. We can never know what will surely happen. Life always interrupts our plans and our work, smashing and rearranging what is in front of us. One way or another, life is pointing us to the next, better thing. Of course, every time life rearranges something, we feel violated and indignant.

That’s the thing about feeling violated and indignant—they are forms of ingratitude. When we get something better, we should be grateful that we did, not merely accepting.  · · · →

The Smokescreen of Anger

The Smokescreen of Anger

Frustration peaks when nerves are high. Freaking out won’t do any good. In a crisis, instincts search for a cause—something or someone to blame. But, even finding blame won’t find a way out of a crisis. Keep your head. Resist the urge to thirst for blood.

The real enemy doesn’t rear its ugly head until long after it matters, if ever. Whomever you think to blame, you probably don’t have the full story and would likely blame your allies anyway. No matter the folly, hate hinders. Take action. Be smart. And, never squander emotion and effort as you do.  · · · →

Real Friends

Real Friends

Real friends are hard to make. That’s different from a friend being hard to find. It’s one thing to actually find a friend, but making a friend is the hard part. Real friendship must be forged through fire and ice.

No one can shape a friendship on purpose. Life, circumstance, and the Divine Hand pour, mold, and pound every good friendship into whatever it becomes. It’s the friends who must endure the pounding, the heat, and the freezing brisk that harden our bonds into something that can never break. Friends are easily found; their making takes rewarding pain and dedication.  · · · →