Backing down is not the same thing as being sweet and charming. Friendliness includes pushing forward, leaning on slow doors until they open.
Reject the lie that nice guys have to finish last. Actually, nice guys finish first so they can take the trophy home to their loved ones who supported them—and put up with them—through all the difficult training necessary to win.
Nothing gets done without turbulence. Races require sweat. Construction requires demolition and dust. Even trees break up the ground as they spread roots. Life grows better if you’re sweet, but winning makes your sweetness worthwhile.