Governing is the opposite of control, not the opposite of anarchy. Anarchy is only 90° off from control and governance.
Governing is soft-handed guidance of a society with a mind of its own.
Governance leads people by recognizing who the people are and thus calling them whatever and whomever they already chose to be.
People have ambitions and responses, a psychology. They respond negatively to bad rules and appreciate rules that fit their daily routines.
When leaders don’t govern softly and fittingly, people rebel. Whoever rebels with hard fists fail, but well-fitting soft-handedness always wins, whether in leadership or rebellion thereof.